You Are Real (& You Matter)

Yes, you read that right: You are real.

This might be no surprise to you, but it's a reminder I think we all need to hear (and a declaration I have to make myself sometimes) because there is a pervasive tendency in digital culture to allow the anonymity that the barrier of the screen creates to divide us, leading us to say and do things we would never have the gall to say to somebody in person.

Although I'm a huge fan of digital media and heavily invested in online learning, I also know full well that behind every screen name, avatar, or default profile image is a real person who matters not only to me but to God...as well as to others around them. Now, I make it a special point to only "friend" people who I know and have interacted with somehow in some part of my life (along with about half a dozen virtual friends that I still want to connect with in person someday, but whom I know super-well digitally).

So, that's why I say "you are real."  If you're seeing this, we've met somewhere, somehow, and I know you. You're not just some random user in a forum who saw my post and wanted to rant; you're somebody I know somehow. And you matter.

Awhile back, I had an online debate with a fellow minister about the ethics and ramifications of "virtual church" (ironically, this was before COVID-19 lockdowns), and he was absolutely convinced that it was impossible to connect with people digitally in a meaningful way.  He simply couldn't make the leap to how online contexts are so often a reflection of the reality we often experience in person. Of course, with me having taught and studied online (as well as in person and hybrid), and my having spent the last 10+ years (now 15) developing quality online learning experiences, and with me being an early adopter of livestream and videoconferencing technologies, he was picking a fight with the wrong guy (it's kind of a losing proposition to insist something can't be done when you're arguing with somebody who's been doing it for over a decade).

And, ironically, we were having this whole discussion on Facebook, via screen names, with avatars and selected media samples to represent ourselves. So it was hard not to chuckle at the notion that either I was an AI "bot" or he was simply proving my point with every attempt to argue otherwise (if I'm not a real person, why does it matter what I think?). Upon later reflection, I realized he was letting that screen barrier and the anonymity it creates get in the way of a potential friendship, especially considering everything else we had in common. Sometimes we care more about wanting to be right than about our relationship with the person on the other end.

Remember...

1. We are not as different nor as divided as the media want to make us think we are. Such outlets thrive on portended divisiveness because it sells airtime and goods.  Don't believe it.
2. Most of us have significantly more in common with those we argue with than the few things we disagree on.  Focus on what you have in common and your shared concerns, and you will be amazed at how much more productive, meaningful, and transformative your interactions are.
3. All of us are facing challenges and struggles and situations that seem unprecedented in our experience.  When I finished a huge regional conference with international attendees, followed by multiple meetings since then and today via Zoom with many different groups of people I know, work with, and interact with, I was reminded of this once again.

And knowing this forces me to think long and hard about how I respond to others online, because...not only are YOU real, but so am I. And so are "THEY" (and in reality, there is no "they," only "WE" - if we can allow ourselves to be part of a global community of progress).  When everything's "they" and "them," and there's no "we," then we've lost the most precious human capacity and privilege we have - COMMUNITY.

So, greet somebody today, tomorrow, and the next day as if they're real...because they are.  A fellow citizen and traveler through life's journey with challenges and struggles much like you and I face...trying to make sense of it all and make a difference.

And see if that doesn't change your perspective a bit (as well as how they respond to you).

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SOURCE: Image generated by DALL-E 3 (ChatGPT4o) in collaboration with David J. Swisher.  Text republished from an original Facebook post I made Aug. 13, 2020 (updated slightly).

Strange Days of Great Hope & Opportunity

This is not the first time the Church has had to meet in homes during a crisis.

Illustration of a coronavirus (SARS-CoV-2) created by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).  As a work of the U.S. federal government, the image is in the public domain.

It happened in Moses' day, Elijah's day, and Jesus' day. It happened during the early Church period as well as in the Dark Ages.  It happened during the time of Patrick, the days of Martin Luther, during the time of the Wesley brothers, and during the time of air raids, war, and Holocaust. This is neither new nor something to fear.

We've endured persecution and plagues, several dozen times throughout our history at least: Times when we weren't welcome to meet in larger facilities and times when even being seen meeting with other Christians meant immediate arrest and likely death. And in all those times, the Church has thrived...and grown...exponentially.

In fact, much of what we refer to as the "New Testament" was written as circular letters to groups of Christians meeting in homes who couldn't gather in public places, and about three-fourths of those letters were written by someone who was locked up or under house arrest or even living in exile. Some of the earliest church multipliers in Jesus' day were people delivered from "incurable diseases" and demonic affliction, and rather than welcome them in His entourage (giving them "stage time"), Jesus encouraged them to stay put and instead be a living witness to a life transformed in their immediate family and community.

At its core, we are an ἐκκλησία "ekklesia" (the called out ones). Not the "people who meet in a building," but the people who live and love differently...the people who face adversity with courage and still have enough love to share with others in need. The people willing to speak truth with conviction, whether or not it suits our own best interests, a people who know the difference between what we have a "right" to do and what IS right to do.

We've been a movement since Day 1, and we are at our best when we are creative innovators who find new ways to BE the Church in our culture no matter the challenges. Our confinement to fancy buildings dedicated for church use is a relatively recent invention (and a rather inefficient one at that given the larger) scope of how life change happens).

What an awesome opportunity for the Church #MadeNew to arise!